On this season of the podcast I’m discussing life teaching principals…and the way they apply to working together with your horse. Life teaching addresses ’The Rider’s Thoughts’ which exhibits up in all quadrants. If I develop my intro, check out how the riders thoughts is in every phrase, “I’m right here that will help you learn your horses physique language, learn to interpret the knowledge you get with out judgement of your self or your horse, and study to regulate your habits to regulate your horses habits.”
Episode 151_ Life teaching and the riders thoughts.mp3Announcer: Podcasting from slightly cabin on a hill, that is the Stacy Westfall podcast, Stacy’s purpose is straightforward: to show you to know why horses do what they do, in addition to the motion steps for creating clear, assured communication together with your horses.
Stacy Westfall: Hello, I’m Stacy Westfall, and I’m right here to show you find out how to perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare your personal horses. On this season of the podcast, I’m discussing life teaching ideas and the way they apply to working together with your horse. At this time, I’m going to debate why I selected to turn into a licensed life coach and the way I see this data impacting riders. I’ve quite a lot of targets that I really haven’t talked about once I’m speaking about targets on the podcast as a result of lots of them aren’t straight associated to horses. And so previously, I haven’t talked about them. So for lots of you who’ve been listening for some time, you’ll keep in mind discussing me discussing my targets for 2021, and I didn’t point out something about working a 10k. But in the previous couple of weeks, you heard me reference reaching that purpose of working a 10k and the way I additionally felt prefer it was associated to the horses, that means being in form has actually helped me with a few of my targets with using and particularly with a few of the dressage issues I’m learning proper now. And so it’s issues like that that I’ve possibly in a roundabout way approached as a result of they didn’t fall straight underneath the horse class. However going ahead, I believe I wish to embody extra of these to be able to see a full image as a result of one factor I’ve all the time strived for, for so long as I can keep in mind, is simply being a scholar of life, a scholar for all times. I like studying. So I went by means of the normal methods of studying, going up by means of faculty, going by means of school, however I’ve accomplished quite a lot of different issues the place I keep in mind once I needed to get higher at writing as in with a pen and–pen and pencil, pen and paper. I needed to get higher at writing, and so I discovered a ebook that I actually preferred after which I drove as soon as a month, 9 hours, a technique, to take a dwell, in-person class. So I’d drive 9 hours, go to class, spend the evening, drive residence the following day as a result of that’s how a lot I worth studying and particularly studying from lecturers that actually resonate with me as a result of all studying shouldn’t be equal. I don’t know in case you do not forget that from faculty. Some lecturers simply actually acquired you excited for studying and–and possibly it was the topic and the instructor. However for certain, the instructor is a chunk of it. So for me, each time I discover that in life, I am going for it. And I additionally know that in some unspecified time in the future it grew to become extra apparent to me, as , a few of the issues that I did just like the bareback and bridleless, as issues like that reached out, it was straight even said to me by completely different those that I used to be a task mannequin. And I all the time liked studying for my very own private sake however I additionally acknowledge now that I’ve the chance to be an instance of what’s potential. One of many issues that folks will inform me on a regular basis is I’m impressed to strive such and such as a result of I noticed you doing it, and that has been an odd place for me to be in that I may in all probability do a whole podcast on as a result of it it simply brings up various things for me. Like, Who me? What? You’re–why? Me? As a result of, , it’s been an attention-grabbing street to get right here, however I’m going to depart that for one more day.
Stacy Westfall: Let’s return to the concept of, why did I determine to turn into a life coach and what do I see? And so to begin with, it was a brilliant simple resolution for me to make to turn into a licensed life coach as a result of I like studying, and it was a deep dive into the topic of understanding how our ideas create our emotions and our emotions are going to drive our actions and our actions are going to create our outcomes. And in case you keep in mind listening to any of my podcasts with Ginny Telego, you’ll acknowledge a few of this phrasing as a result of it’s similar to a few of the issues that she does. And so life teaching was fascinating to me is that it’s so about what I name the rider’s thoughts and with it being a lot concerning the rider’s thoughts it has helped me make clear a few of the issues that I’ve accomplished in my previous. For instance, just like the Street to the Horse and, , the bareback bridleless journey and being on Ellen and–and doing a few of these issues that, , go to Street to the Horse for a minute the place individuals thought, Oh my gosh, like, she’s the primary lady that’s ever been invited. How a lot stress is that going to be? What’s it going to be like? After which I gained it. And it was like, Oh my gosh, like, what’s it wish to, –I had reporters saying, What’s it wish to signify all ladies? That–that seems like stress, by the way in which, if you get requested that query. And so it’s attention-grabbing…so I knew that in my previous, I had been doing quite a lot of thought work, however I’d by no means actually tried to straight train it in a approach that I felt like was tremendous clear to individuals. As a result of for me, I expertise it and I can really feel it and I can, I can replicate it. However with the ability to train it’ll be so enjoyable to have the ability to make it extra clear for you guys. As a result of I do know I’m doing it and now I can train it. And I additionally do it in different areas of my life. I’ve used these abilities in my enterprise and with my youngsters, in my marriage, and all types of various locations. And learning to turn into a life coach made me see how I’ve accomplished these completely different roles extra clearly and the way I can train it in a framework the place I believe you’ll be capable to perceive it extra clearly. After which what’s so attention-grabbing to me is that it has made me really feel extra free to debate topics that possibly aren’t as straight associated to the horse. For instance, working that 10k and–and a few of the whereas going to highschool to turn into a life coach and all these various things that to me are all the time circling again to horses, which is why I’ve been so snug saying that I’m instructing about horses. As a result of to me, the lens I view life by means of is so rooted in horses that it sort of all the time does really feel prefer it circles again. However I actually assume from a instructing perspective, it’s going to assist me once I’m working with purchasers, as a result of in case you’ve, properly, you’ve I’m certain you’ve observed it on the podcast and in case you’ve ever labored with me one on one, what you’ll discover is that I like to make use of numerous examples from life as a result of how we do life, there’s quite a lot of overlap in how we do issues with our horses and the way we do issues with our canine or our, , youngsters or our spouses or our enterprise or our work or all these various things. There’s numerous areas that overlap as a result of how we do life, how we predict and the feelings that we go to ceaselessly, they–they influence us. And so I believe that having this certification and with the ability to speak about this differently goes to be a ravishing addition to what I already train about horses as a result of it’s mainly going to equip me to talk much more clearly concerning the rider’s thoughts, which is definitely simply the human thoughts.
Stacy Westfall: So let’s take slightly nearer take a look at one thing you’ve heard me say very ceaselessly in order that we are able to focus on this from a unique angle. Principally, each week, I say to you. Hello, I’m Stacy Westfall, and I’m right here to show you find out how to perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare your personal horses. However have you ever ever slowed down to consider what meaning? I’ve, as a result of I wrote it out and I wrote it in a a lot better element and I shrunk all of it the way in which all the way down to there. However now I’m going to present you a barely extra expanded model of it to be able to hear it in additional element. Let me say it like this. Hello, I’m Stacy Westfall. I’m right here that will help you learn your horse’s physique language, learn to interpret the knowledge that you just get with out judgment of your self or your horse, and study to regulate your habits so you possibly can regulate your horse’s habits. Now, what I need you to note is that doesn’t roll off the tongue fairly the identical approach that the one I say each week does, however it does provide clarification. It is a bit more clear in every of these phrases what I’m attempting to do right here on the podcast. So let’s sluggish it down and look much more intently. So once I say I’m right here that will help you learn your horse’s physique language, once I say perceive, one of many issues that I’m doing is I’m actually serving to riders perceive the horse’s physique language as a result of to me, what I see oftentimes is that when riders watch–and this may be using or on the bottom–I’m simply going to name you a rider. Both approach, the story that you’ve got about your horse, it could be coming from an absence of expertise with horses. It could be coming from earlier expertise with horses. It could be coming from simply sort of a common view in life. However the way in which that you just learn the horse’s physique language, what you make it imply goes to vary the way you present up. So if you perceive, you must perceive how to take a look at it from a non-judgmental spot. So once I say perceive and luxuriate in to me, the understanding is that this understanding of this, this dance between you studying the horse’s physique language, the way you interpret it, what you make it imply, and the get pleasure from half for me comes once I’m capable of drop the judgment of myself and the judgment of my horse. So I see this on a regular basis with college students. I’ll be working with them and I’ll be watching a video of them working with their horse and we’ll be discussing what’s happening and the interpretation they’re studying of the physique language and the alternatives that the horse made is interpreted by means of the knowledge that they’ve proper now. And quite a lot of instances what occurs is as they’re decoding it, they’re placing on layers of judgment about how they need to have been completely different and the way the horse ought to have been completely different and–and the way this could have come out completely different. And–and, , they’re making interpretations as to what the long run goes to appear to be based mostly off from what they’re doing immediately with the horse and what’s working or what’s not working. Spoiler alert, there’s numerous instances that it’s a bumpy street earlier than it smooths out. And so in case you say it’s bumpy now and it’s all the time going to be bumpy, that’s not essentially true. Have a look at the remainder of your life. Like you may hit bumpy patches and you’ll come out higher or you possibly can come out, , extra, , withdrawn and sad, and possibly even go away that entire state of affairs. So once I say perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare and when and I’m translating it now into, provide help to studying your horse’s physique language, provide help to interpret the knowledge that you just get, after which regulate your habits so you possibly can regulate your horse’s habits, what I need you to consider is what wouldn’t it be wish to work together with the horse and never really feel a judgment of the horse or your self? Relying in your degree of consciousness, I undoubtedly know that there are occasions I do each and my consciousness of it’s what provides me energy over it.
Stacy Westfall: For a few of you listening, you could be like, I by no means choose my horse, however I undoubtedly choose myself on a regular basis. After which typically I’ll be teaching a rider and so they’ll be joking with me. I’ll be like, What do you imply it’s me? Isn’t it all the time the horse? As a result of they’re saying it like tongue in cheek as in like, they perceive how a lot they’re–they’re in command of this. However I simply need you to turn into conscious of the concept that may very well be displaying up if you’re working with the horse, this– this some sort of judgment. And when that occurs, it turns into very muddy. It turns into very laborious to proceed the cycle. So perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare you sort of 10x the problem degree in case you preserve these judgments when you possibly can’t see one another clearly as separate issues, although you’re the one in cost. As a result of on the subject of adjusting your habits to then be capable to regulate the horse’s habits in order that we are able to stair-step this coaching, in order that we are able to–can obtain a few of these targets that we’ve the horses, it’s actually attention-grabbing for me to take a deeper dive into the “perceive.” To me, the enjoyment comes when you can begin entering into this extra impartial area and dropping that judgment about who must be doing what and what must be working and why it shouldn’t have gone like that and that’s when the actual coaching can start. Let me sluggish this down for a minute and put it into yet one more context so I can just be sure you can actually perceive it. I’ve been spherical penning my minis. It’s the cutest factor ever, by the way in which. Sure, I did arrange a mini spherical pen to spherical pen my minis in. And this cycle is alive and properly and taking place when I’m taking actions within the spherical pen with the mini or minis. And so once I go in there and I begin sending Mocha round me, round within the circle, the–once I go in and I strategy, there’s a lot alternative for story and interpretation. So I am going in there and I’ve had Mocha for about three months now. So his physique language is completely different than Nugget, who I believe I’m approaching the three-week mark with. And so once I go in, I may inform a narrative that , properly, Mocha likes me as a result of that is what I see in him. And actually, it’s Mocha, , is trying to me and understands me extra. And I may have a unique story with Nugget. I may very well be like, properly, Nugget doesn’t like me. Nugget is, , extra on this over right here. And so it’s simply actually attention-grabbing if you exit to work together with your horse, simply begin noticing a few of these tales as a result of if I can go into the spherical pen and I can strategy the horse–and this works wherever, I’m simply utilizing the spherical pen for example. Once I go in and I begin asking the mini to maneuver round and studying the physique language, the extra impartial I can preserve it, and even constructive. I discover that one is–is useful in case you discover that you just’re slipping right into a destructive factor. But when I can preserve this as like an commentary, then it’s approach simpler for me to have the ability to see the trail to modifying the habits, to creating changes in my habits. I can begin to see every of us individually and extra clearly. And so the attention-grabbing factor is that–that adjusting of my habits. All of these items is going on in my thoughts. All–a lot of this–once I discuss concerning the rider’s thoughts and the rider’s physique, the horse’s thoughts and the horse’s physique, once I speak about, perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare your personal horses, are you able to hear how a lot of that is taking place within the rider’s thoughts? Once I say, I’m right here that will help you perceive, get pleasure from, and efficiently prepare your personal horses or if I say I’m right here that will help you learn your horse’s physique language and also you’re going to interpret that together with your thoughts, regulate your horse’s habits, and also you’re going to should be coming from a clear place to be able to make these changes as a result of they’re all taking place in your thoughts first. So if you’re on the market and also you’re working the horse, whether or not you’re using it and also you’re engaged on one thing ridden or whether or not you’re spherical penning like I’m speaking about on this instance, all of those important adjustments start in your thoughts as a result of that thought that you’ve got, like feeling responsible, lots of people, once they work minis or once I submit movies within my programs and–and personal teaching classes, once I submit in there and I submit with utilizing the minis, it’s really attention-grabbing to me how many individuals really feel responsible or really feel unhealthy for the mini working. It’s really one among my favourite issues about having individuals work with minis once they come to my place is that they really feel responsible about making the mini work. And I believe what goes on there quite a lot of instances in case you decelerate and take a look at it’s like their small measurement makes individuals really feel extra triggered about them being like infants or younger or immature or a few of these various things. So the feelings, the ideas that individuals are approaching them with are impacting the way in which that they strategy the mini. Now me, I’m like laughing and laughing as a result of I believe it’s simply the funniest factor to love, be spherical penning a mini. It’s simply so ridiculously cute to observe their little legs go round. However I do an excellent job of maintaining them, , on this grownup horse position as a result of I’ve acquired some plans for them, like hooking them as much as a cart and driving them. Meaning I would like to have the ability to give them a good quantity of accountability and really feel secure. As a result of once I get into the cart and I begin driving them up the street and there are vehicles round, I’m going to be in the identical state of affairs with this mini that individuals are once they’re on high of a horse and so they’re using down the facet of the street. And you may really feel that there’s extra threat there in sure conditions with horses. So once I take into consideration this mini and I take into consideration my future targets, I wish to ensure that I deal with this mini in a approach that it really has the work ethic and the accountability that any of my different horses do as a result of I need that degree of understanding with the mini. And slightly facet be aware, it’s been tremendous enjoyable to do the spherical penning as a result of the mini’s, once more I–I simply cycle again to love the concept individuals don’t typically deal with them like massive horses. And some of the attention-grabbing issues about that’s that minis are typically simply sort of dragged round as a result of it’s extra potential than with an grownup, like massive, full-grown thousand pound. Or let’s simply take all of it the way in which to the opposite excessive and go to a draft horse. There are a few of these horses and it’s like, properly, clearly you possibly can’t drag the horse round, so individuals have a tendency to coach it, prepare the thoughts. To me, it’s fascinating how typically these minis don’t contemplate being thought of as a result of they’re not used to that interplay with individuals the place individuals deal with them like they’re able to making selections, they actually simply drag them round. It’s slightly bit like imagining simply taking a baby and simply holding onto their hand and simply pulling them round all over the place, , 30 days straight, like by no means letting go. Simply, that is the one approach that after we, after we transfer round collectively, I’m simply dragging you round versus the concept of, sure, there could also be moments that you just’re doing that, however there are moments if you’re additionally instructing and educating that baby since you–you don’t wish to be dragging them round as a–as an grownup. And so what’s so attention-grabbing is that each of those minis, as a result of they’re 5 and 7 years outdated and each of those minis simply have include this assumption that they’re simply going to be dragged round. And so it was actually enjoyable to place them within the spherical pen and do some very true liberty coaching with them as a result of that opened up their minds so rapidly as a result of I modified the dynamic that they have been used to interacting with people in. And once I modified that dynamic, that they had completely different questions. After which I used to be capable of reply utilizing the language that I do and bringing them into that dialog. And it’s so cute to have the mini who was at first, , simply attempting to keep away from me and attempting to be close to the spherical pen panel. After which he sees he’s invited into this dialog, so cute to have him like wrapping himself round me and trotting these little bitty circles with these little bitty legs going round me and seeing his thoughts interact. As a result of to me, probably the most attention-grabbing factor about that is that they will purchase in simply as strongly because the full-grown horses. They’re a minimum of and so they’re lovely.
Stacy Westfall: So I needed to file this podcast to kick off this new season of the podcast, the place I actually wish to herald a few of the completely different themes, a few of these completely different teaching instruments that I used to be taught whereas I used to be going by means of coach coaching, and I wish to convey them up in a approach that exhibits you the way a few of your ideas are impacting the outcomes that you just’re getting. And I’m excited to convey this to you on the podcast, and I’m going to convey you into all the opposite teaches which might be–instructing that I do in programs and in non-public teaching sooner or later. And when you have any questions on this, be at liberty to name in and go away it as a voicemail or e mail me. I do learn the emails and thanks for listening. I’ll discuss to you once more within the subsequent episode.